I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m a homebody. I love just chilling at home doing my own thing. Don’t get me wrong I love going out and doing things too. If my choices ever are to do something or stay home, 80% of the time I will choose to stay home. Home is my favorite place to be – no societal pressure, no judgement, no pretending to enjoy myself, no spending money.
I won’t hesitate to cancel plans for whatever reason comes up or whatever reason I an think of. Yes I’m that friend that will make up an excuse to get out of something. Most of the time I don’t even feel bad about it. I usually try to cancel ahead of time so they don’t show up wherever and end up waiting for me. Cancelling doesn’t make me a bad friend. Most of the time my friends are understanding and it’s almost like there is a sigh of relief on their end too.
My friends aren’t so innocent either. They cancel on me too and a majority of the time last minute. Sometimes they even forget we have plans. I’m guilty of this a time or two as well. I rarely ever care when they cancel, sometimes I have been really excited to just get of the house for a bit. But it’s a sigh of relief on my part, like heck yeah now I don’t have to put on pants. HA! Friends if you’re reading this, cancel on me any time you need to and don’t feel bad about it.
You see, I’ve surrounded myself with amazing people. They have kids and busy lives. I have kids and a busy life. We all understand that stuff happens and things come up all the time. It’s really one of the best parts of our relationships. If the people in your life (friends, family, etc.) aren’t understanding that life happens and things come up, kick them to the curb. Life happens. Things come up. Plans change or get cancelled. There is always time to reschedule. There isn’t time for people who don’t understand that things come up.
I will always cancel and not feel bad and you shouldn’t either. Cancelling plans for whatever reason, whether an actual emergency or something you make up, don’t feel bad about it. Cancelling doesn’t make you a bad friend. Sometimes those plans are made on a good day and by the time they happen your mental health isn’t great. Sometimes those plans are made and then work gets crazy that week and you don’t have the energy. Sometimes you just really don’t want to leave your house. Whatever the reason, cancel, don’t feel bad about it, and don’t keep people around that don’t understand. You deserve so much better.