Work. Taking kids to and from school. Field trips. Volunteering. Cooking. Cleaning. Grocery shopping. Laundry. Helping with homework. Last minute project supply runs. Dentist appointments. Doctor appointments. Orthodontist appointments. Emergency room visits. Late nights. Early mornings. Cleaning up after sick kids. Sports events and practices. Packing lunches. Trips to the park. Moms really do it all, they are superheroes.
That was me. I wanted to be super mom. I did all the things. All the cooking, cleaning, and laundry. Took the kids to and from school, along with the doctor, dentist, and orthodontist appointments. I cleaned up after sick kids, stayed up late, and got up early. I packed all the lunches, volunteered at the schools, and went on field trips. I never missed a practice or a game and always cheered the loudest from the sidelines. I thought giving my all was doing my best, but it wasn’t.
I wasn’t just trying to be super mom, I was super mom. The superhero of all superheroes, but at what cost? Myself. The cost was me. I was exhausted – physically, mentally, and emotionally. I gave 110% of myself at all times to everyone and everything but myself. I worked myself to the bone. Was it worth is? Yes and no. Yes because I got to be there all the time and show up for my kids no matter what. But no because my kids didn’t need me there all the time and sometimes they didn’t want me there.
I wasn’t just exhausted. I was slowly losing myself. I had fallen into essentially becoming just a mom. Everything I did was for my kids. It wasn’t a bad thing and living life that way isn’t a bad thing, but it was for me. I wasn’t taking care of myself like I needed to. I wasn’t eating great and barely sleeping at night. My mental health was suffering too. Not because of what I was doing, but because I wasn’t making myself a priority and I was suffering because of it. I was constantly on the go and never stopped or slowed down. All I knew was go, go, go. I failed to realize the damage I was doing to myself.
Don’t get me wrong I love volunteering, going on field trips, and doing all the things. But doing all the things and being super mom doesn’t have to me being on the go 24/7 and not making yourself a priority. The priority should always be you. You can’t be at the top of your game and do your best if you aren’t taking care of you. You also don’t have to be super mom doing all the things to be a good mom. You are a good mom no matter what. Stop stretching yourself thin, exhausting yourself, and forgetting about yourself to please everyone else. You matter just as much, if not more than any other priority. Take care of you boo.