It’s too easy to get stressed out. Life throws a lot at you. Work is demanding. Relationships are demanding. Your kids are demanding. Someone always needs something – a ride somewhere, something for a science fair project, new shoes – the list goes on. When that happens, it’s too easy to focus on the negatives. To be brought down by anything that is stressing you out and causing turmoil in your life.
I myself have been stressed out lately. The last year has been hard for us like it has for much of the world. As it felt like we were beginning to get back on our feet, it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under us. The little things have began to pile up and I’m finding it hard to see the positives in what feels like only negatives. That’s where we go wrong, focusing on the negatives instead of seeing the positives in any situation. Every situation has a positive if you look for it.
When I get stressed out, I become a mess. It becomes hard to focus on anything. I become forgetful. I have a hard time keeping up with everything life throws at me. I become discouraged. It’s really not the best. I know there are many ways to manage stress, but sometimes it just doesn’t feel possible. Stress will get the best of you from time to time. Making the best of the mess is the only way I can survive and finding the positives in what feels like the worst situation ever. Stress brings the negatives in life to the forefront and makes you forget that there are in fact positives in there somewhere.
Focusing on and finding the positives when you’re stressed is the real test. It’s easier said than done. For example, you just lost a job. Now you’re stressing out about paying bills, finding another job, possibly working a different schedule which may involve finding childcare or figuring out how you’re going to get your kids back and forth to school. It stresses you out and all you can see is the negatives. But what if you saw the positives? You lost a job, but now you have the opportunity to be home with your kids until you find another, which means making memories. You have the opportunity to find a better job that makes you happy and maybe even pays more. It’s going to be hard, but when one door closes, another door opens. Good opportunities are heading your way.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade right? Sometimes we get stuck looking at those lemons and thinking what the hell am I suppose to do with these. What if we just decided to make the best of those lemons? Take them and make more than lemonade. Go out and get all the things you need to make a lemon pie instead or a lemon bundt cake. It’s all about having life throw the worst at you and making the best of it. Knowing you are stressed, a mess, but that you are totally blessed. You have beautiful, amazing, smart kids that you now have a little time to spend with making memories and making the most of your time together. Remembering that this is an opportunity for a career change or starting a business or whatever your heart desires.
It may not be easy to not get stressed out when life throws us major curveballs, but changing your mindset to focus on the positives instead of the negatives will help you live a happier life. It will open more opportunities for you. Maybe you’ll still be a mess, but you’ll be a beautiful mess. Everything negative has a positive, you just have to choose to find it and make the most of it. Your kids won’t remember the stressed out mess of a mom you are. They will remember that you had time to watch movies, go for a walk, take them to the park, whatever you do with the time you have. You deserve to have fun when you get the chance. It’s not always about working, cooking, or cleaning all the time. Take a breath. Relax. It does get better.