When I started blogging I knew what I wanted to do. I knew what I wanted to focus on, motherhood and everything womanhood. That’s not really how things have been going. I don’t plan on straying away from that as it’s the ultimate goal, but it’s been primarily focused on motherhood as that’s what my life has been focused on for the last year with this pandemic and distance learning. With that being said, I want to take a moment to appreciate my husband.
We all have this picture in our head of what the perfect man looks like. It’s different for all of us as we’re all different and want or need different things in our lives. Some of us grew up with a dad or father figure in our lives as an example and some of us didn’t. We see the videos of dads playing with their kids or boyfriends/husbands doing something for their girlfriend/wife and we think to ourselves I want that. We imagine how they’ll be to us and to our kids. We know what we’re looking for and what we need in our lives. Then we set out to find it. Sometimes it’s right in front of us and sometimes we find it in the most unexpected places.
I met my husband young. I was 15 and something about him just drew me to him. I fell for him hard. We had our first child in 2006, got married in 2009, and had our second child in 2011. We had our fair share of rough years. Lots of struggling, fighting, and everything in between. There was a time I wasn’t sure we would even make it. That’s the tough part of meeting someone young. You have a lot left to learn and a lot of growing up to do. We grew up together and along with that so did our love. We survived so much together, accomplished so much together, and we fell more and more in love with each other. He wasn’t what I thought I wanted in a man, but he was everything I didn’t know I needed.
Watching my husband be a dad is the greatest joy. He’s not the dad to go out and play catch with the kids in the front yard, but he’s the dad that will always be there for his kids. Showing up to watch them win awards. Giving the best hugs to help when they’re sad or having a bad day. Telling them they better do their chores and not give me attitude when it’s been a long day. Rubbing their back until they fall asleep. Cheering from the sidelines at football games and practices. Teaching them life lessons. Embarrassing them whenever he can. Celebrating their wins, birthdays, holidays, and everything in between. Just being there every day, every way he can. That’s a win in my book.
Then there’s him being a husband. He always knows when it’s been a bad day, I’m sad, or something else and comes in with a big hug. He isn’t one to do a lot of chores or cleaning around the house (that’s just because he works so much and I’m lucky enough to work from home and have more time), but he does when he can. He’s the guy that has a sarcastic remark whenever you say just about anything and as much as I hate it, my life wouldn’t be the same without it. He’s the guy that always knows how to put a smile on my face through some small gesture, even when he doesn’t know what he did will do that. He’s my best friend. The one person I want to tell everything to – all the wins, loses, small things, big things, secrets I’ve been told.
I was so young when we met that I never really had an idea of what I was looking for in a husband, but what I found was something so much better than anything I could have ever imagined. He doesn’t think I walk on water, but he loves me for me and everything that I am. Even when I’m loud, obnoxious, and needy. My life wouldn’t be the same without him and I’m so lucky I found him. He may not be a good one to some, but I know I got a good one. Don’t settle for anything less than what you want and deserve. You deserve someone that will give you everything and do anything for you. You deserve someone that won’t walk out when times get tough. You deserve someone that loves every bit of you and wouldn’t want you to change a thing. You deserve the best. Never settle for less.