It’s no secret I never wanted to be a mom. That also meant I hadn’t given any thought to what I would be like as a mom or the type of mom I wanted to be. I am happy to be a mom and as I became one, I began to envision the mom I wanted to be.
I wanted to be what I saw as the perfect mom. The mom that volunteers at the school. The mom that packs all the cute little healthy Pinterest lunches. The mom that makes all the cute Pinterest crafts. The mom that got down on the floor to play. The mom that played at the park with her kids. The mom that always had a clean house. The mom that never yelled. The mom that had it all together. That was the mom I wanted to be. What I saw as the perfect mom. I just wanted to do a good job.
Boy was I wrong. What I had envisioned I would be like as a mom was so wrong. It’s exhausting keeping up with all those things all the time. I took what worked for other people and put that on myself. That’s not who I am. I took this vision I had of what other moms were doing and put it on myself. I felt like I had to be that mom. What I didn’t realize was that I’m not made to be that mom because I am me, not them. My life is different than theirs.
The mom I am looks more like this. I yell at my kids. Not all the time, but when it’s needed, such as when I tell them repeatedly to do something and they don’t. I have and do get on the floor and play with them when I have time. I’m a lot busier than I thought I’d be. They’re older not and don’t want to play as much. I do volunteer at my kids schools when I can. It’s not as fun as I thought it’d be though and somedays I really don’t want to go. Crafts aren’t my thing. If my kids really wanted to do it, I’ll try, but I hate it. I pack my daughters lunch, but it’s not even close to cute Dinosaur sandwiches and fruit shapes. She gets whatever we have in the fridge. I am like a big kid so I will always play on the playground at the parks with them, even when they don’t want me to. I clean almost everyday, but my house is not spotless and never will be.
I’m not the mom I thought I’d be. Does that make me a bad mom? Nope. The mom you are has everything to do with who you are and who your kids are. What other parents do has nothing to do with whether you’re a good mom or not. Don’t let the expectations set by other parents, Pinterest, and society make you feel any less than. You are an amazing mom whether you do all the things or don’t. Never forget that.