When you wake up late it puts you in a bad mood. Then you spill your coffee and someone cuts you off on your way to work. Every little thing that happens will pile up and leave you in a bad mood. It’ll make you stressed out. It doesn’t matter what good happens, it’s still a bad day. It’s so easy to dwell on the negatives. To stress out over the things in life. It makes it so easy to forget the positives. The good things in life.
It’s no secret 2020 has been a whirlwind. The kids were pulled from school and thrust into distance learning as the pandemic hit and quarantine started. My husband was furloughed for a month and denied unemployment. I lost my job and a few weeks later my husband lost his. One thing after another piled up and we weren’t sure what we were going to do. Things started looking up when my husband got his job back about a month later. It was so easy to dwell on all the things happening to us. The thing was we didn’t put ourselves in any of these situations, it was thrust upon us. We weren’t alone, the world was also in shambles.
As the year progressed we hoped things would get better. We hoped things would go back to normal. They didn’t. Every month seemed to bring something new. Pandemic, quarantine, murder hornets, riots, another year of distance learning, fires. One bad thing after another. It seemed like the year was dragging on and on. It seems to be the worst year many of us have ever experienced. It wasn’t all bad though. It wasn’t a bad year, just a year filled with bad moments.
This is where my grateful jar comes in. I found myself dwelling on all the negatives. All the bad things that happened this year. I had completely forgot that it wasn’t a bad year. I couldn’t be bothered to think of the good things when everything seemed so bad. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. The good always outweighs the bad. It was so unhealthy for me to dwell on the negatives and what was that teaching my kids? That it’s okay to focus on the negatives in life? That’s not the message I want to convey. So I decided to do something about it.
I decided to make a grateful jar. I took an empty jar we had laying around and some sticky notes. I wrote down all the good things this year. All the accomplishments I’ve had. All the goals I crushed. All the things that outweigh the bad. I took everything I could think of so far, wrote it down, and added it to the jar. 37 sticky notes. 37 good things. 37 accomplishments. 37 goals I’ve never crushed before. 37 times despite what this year has thrown at me I have overcome. 37 times the good outweighed the bad. These are all the big successes, the life changing accomplishments. The things that remind me what an amazing year this has been and I can’t wait to add more.
Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes it feels like there are more downs than ups. Don’t dwell on the downs or the negatives. The good will always outweigh the bad. Today, this weed, or this month might feel bad, but it’s not a bad year. Everything you’ve ever wanted to accomplish is still attainable. Just keep pushing forward. Keep having hope. And remember your kids are watching. Teach them not to dwell. Teach them to overcome obstacles. Teach them to hold on to hope. It’s easier to dwell on the negatives and harder to overcome them. Take that harder path and overcome them. Greatness awaits on the other side.