Don’t take anything I’m about to say the wrong way. Yes you don’t have to love yourself all of the time. I get that for some people it’s actually really hard to love yourself and that’s okay. This isn’t meant to be one sided, but it’s time to start loving you because you deserve to love you.
A while back I wrote about relearning to love myself. You can read it here. I had every reason to love myself and every reason to hate myself. I chose to hate myself for years and years. Then one day that all changed and I made the choice to relearn to love myself again. It didn’t happen overnight and it wasn’t easy, but I did it.
You can have every reason why you don’t love yourself. Your laugh is too loud. Your body isn’t perfect or how society tells you it should be. Your skin isn’t as clear as you want. Your hair is too thin or too thick. Your clothes don’t fit the way you want. You’re not as smart as you want to be. Your teeth aren’t as white as you want them to be. Sometimes we find any reason to not love ourselves no matter what. You can have every reason in the world why you don’t like yourself, but what if…..what if you chose to love yourself?
What if you looked in the mirror and told yourself all the things you love about you? What if you acknowledged all the beautiful imperfections that make you so unique? Look at that magnificent smile, it really lights up a room. Look how amazing your hair looks, people are jealous of it. Listen to your laugh, it’s like music to others ears. Look at the way your outfit looks, no one could rock that outfit like you. You look phenomenal. Remember that time you knew all about something and others didn’t? You are so smart and just because you don’t know everything doesn’t mean you’re not.
If we loved ourselves, would we have higher self confidence? Would our lives be better? Would our mental health improve? Hating yourself is easy and loving yourself is hard. Believe me, I myself have struggled with loving myself. We live in a world that constantly thrives on the negatives in life. People are so quick to point out something about you they don’t like, even if they’ve never met you (thanks social media). So what will happen when we cut out the negative? Replace your negatives with positives and watch your confidence shut out the negatives of others. No one has to love you, but you have to love you.
It won’t happen overnight and it won’t be easy. Take it one day at a time, one moment at a time. Turn the negatives into positives. Look in the mirror and tell yourself what you love about you. Tell yourself what makes you so amazing. Write it down in a journal. Write it on sticky notes and place around for reminders. You are in charge of how you feel and no one can take that away from you. Remember you don’t have to love yourself all the time, but only you can love you for everything that you are. Love you because you are you and that is your power.