I was talking on the phone last night with an amazing friend. We haven’t talked for a while so we were catching up on all the happenings in our lives over the last few months. She said something that really got me thinking. I need to put myself in a timeout.
I’ve said it multiple times before, I need a break. I feel guilty for saying that or even thinking it. Who wouldn’t want to spend every moment possibly with their kids? I know I do, but I’m also human. I need a break too, just as much as they need a break from me from time to time. It’s a natural part of parenthood. It doesn’t matter how much we love and care for people, at one point or another we need a break from them. It’s normal. It’s healthy. It’s not something we should ever feel guilty about.
My friend made me realize I am a person that needs time to myself. I need that time to refocus, relax, and get back to the top of my game. To just take a breather. To just destress for the day. Just as anyone at any job needs a break from the hustle and bustle of their job and everything that comes with it. This was something I honestly didn’t know about myself. Not that I completely had no idea because everyone needs a break from time to time, but that I need that break to destress, relax, and refocus on what needs to get done.
It all seemed so new to me because I never needed that before. I never really felt like I needed a break from my kids, which is where my guilt comes in. I didn’t feel like I needed that because my time to breath and destress was when they were in school. That was my me time. My time to focus on what I needed to get done. My time to destress from everything life throws at me. Since the pandemic took over I have spent every day with my kids since March 13th. No wonder I need a break. That’s a long time to not take a moment to yourself to breath. Don’t get me wrong I have taken a moment to myself going to the grocery store alone, but I feel like that doesn’t count since I’m on a mission to not forget anything. I’m busy, not relaxing like I should be.
Just like any kid that needs a timeout to think about what they did or to fix their attitude, I too need a timeout. I need to relax, refocus, and be the best mom I can be. I need to communicate with my kids that I need a few minutes to myself and that I am putting myself in a timeout. Let them know to leave me be unless there is an emergency that I need to handle so that I can destress from all that life throws at me and focus on what needs to get done. I’m running myself into the ground trying to always be that person that does everything for everyone but myself. From here on out I will be putting myself in a timeout when needed for my own well being and mental health.
Just as kids need a timeout, we as parents need a timeout too. It’s healthy to take a minute or two to yourself and relax, recover, and refocus. Never feel guilty for needing a break or taking a break. Life is crazy, especially right now. It is completely normal to take a break. So put yourself in a timeout when you need it because you can’t be the best you or best parent without taking time to yourself.