As parents we are constantly doing what we think is right in every situation. Are we doing what’s right? Who knows, but we know our children better than anyone. Therefore we know what’s right for our children better than anyone. There will always be outsiders looking in judging your every move because that’s just what they do. It’s unfair, but unfortunately that’s how it is.
Every situation and every child calls for something different. No children are the same and no situations are the same. You have to decide on the spot what you feel is right for your child. It’s hard and sometimes it absolutely sucks, but that’s what we as parents do. We have to trust that whatever we decide in that moment is what’s right for our children. We as parents are the only ones that know what’s best. So we do what we think is best and we hope for the best. Sometimes we doubt ourselves and feel like we could’ve done things differently or better. It happens. Most of the time though, that doubt comes from the outside looking in. Everyone likes to think they would’ve handled that situation differently or their child would never put themselves in that situation. So they judge us and make us doubt ourselves. They cause us to rethink everything we did and think our parenting isn’t good enough. That’s not true.
Anyone can say they would have done things differently or better, but until they’re in that situation, they have no idea. When you have to think quick on your feet, you do what you feel is best in that moment. Sometimes it works out and sometimes you think of a better way later. All you can do is your best. Let me tell you what I learned, your best is good enough. Your best is exactly what your children need from you. You are amazing, doing a fantastic job, and you are a phenomenal parent. Never let someone on the outside judge you for doing what’s best. You know your children better than anyone and you’re the only person that knows and gets to decide what’s best for them. Remember that and stop letting outsiders cause you to doubt the amazing parent you are. You are a rockstar and you’ve got this!