Recently my son went through something he asked me not to talk about. Out of respect for him I won’t, but it sparked a conversation with multiple people. Some were saying to get over it and some weren’t. Me being me didn’t agree, but I feel like it’s something important to talk about so let’s do it.
Now I do agree there’s a time, a place, and certain situations you can just get over. Like a small fight with a friend where you know you guys will make up later. Or a fight with your sibling. You know something you know will be fine and really isn’t worth getting worked up over. In instances like that, yeah get over it. It’s easier to do then. Sometimes though you just need to feel every bit of it. Like your first heartbreak. Or when a family member passes away. Or when something else big happens in your life.
Sometimes it’s easy to get over things or not let them affect you. You know they aren’t worth the anger, sadness, or frustration. That’s not always the case though. Sometimes you have to feel the full force of whatever you’re going through. You have to feel it, deal with it, and heal through it. Is it easy? Not always, but it’s always worth it. The pain and sadness comes in waves over days, weeks, or even months. It hurts and feels like you might not survive, but you will and you will be stronger for it. Bit by bit it gets easier. Bit by bit it gets better. And bit by bit you heal and grow through the pain.
Don’t just get over it, feel every bit of it. Yell, scream, get angry, cry, break something, whatever allows you to heal. Just don’t allow yourself to dwell on it because dwelling becomes anger and that anger will be unleashed on the wrong person at the wrong time. Feel the anger, frustration, sadness, and pain. Learn from it and grow from it. That growth is needed to successfully deal with everything life will throw at you. Feel, deal, heal, learn, and grow.