While talking on the phone with a friend the other day I came to a realization. Our conversation was all over the place as they frequently are with mom friends. We talked about various things in our lives and various things about motherhood. Then the realization hit me. We are constantly evolving as mothers. Obvious right? Let me explain what I mean.
As mothers the mom guilt eats us alive. It makes us doubt the amazing mother we really are. We constantly feel like we should be doing better and being better. That’s just the cruel part of motherhood we all deal with. Truth is, that guilt is lying to you. You are an amazing mother. You are the mother you need to be. You are the mother your children need you to be. That in itself is enough and will always be enough.
Children grow so fast. Newborn, baby, toddler, adolescent, teen, adult. The crazy cycle we call life. They’re constantly growing, learning, and changing. Every day brings something new. They never stop growing. They never stop learning. They never stop changing. As they grow, learn, and change their needs from their mother becomes different. It changes literally day after day. This is where my realization comes in.
We as mothers are constantly evolving into what our children need. Mothers don’t start off knowing everything and being the perfect mother. We never will. Our motherly instinct and the mother within ourselves becomes molded bit by bit, day by day into what is needed from us. We grow our patience. We love more than we ever thought we could. Learn to think quick on our feet as every situation calls for something different. We are constantly evolving and smoothing the edges of ourselves to become the mother needed. We will never be the perfect mother, but we will always be the perfect mother for our children.
Why is that important? We all need to hear that. We all need to know we are not meant to be perfect. We are not meant to know everything and handle everything with grace. We are mothers. We take on everything and never disappoint. We are strong, brave warriors that took on the hardest job in the world and kick ass at it every single day. Maybe today was rougher than other days, but you did a phenomenal job. You took on the day and whatever it threw at you like a champ. That guilt and doubt that will try to set in tonight can’t break you. You are exactly the mother you need to be right now. Never forget that.