Listen. You’re doing just fine. Stop doubting yourself. The dishes in the sink can wait another day, so watch another movie with your kids. They’re going to remember the little things – books read, movies watched, that time on the beach and swimming in the ocean. They’re not going to remember the dishes left undone. Relax. They’re going to love you no matter what. You don’t have to be supermom all the time.
Stop putting everyone before yourself. Girl I’m serious, STOP! You are exhausted and desperately need some self care. The kids will be fine. The house won’t burn down. Everyone will keep moving forward. Everyone will understand if you take a day off. Grab that book you’ve been wanting to read. Run a hot bath. Get a bath bomb. Relax and take time for you. You need this.
Stop stressing. Listen you stress about way too much. There’s so much you can’t control and that’s okay. Take a deep breath. Smile. Move on. What’s done is done. You need to delegate where you can. Ask for help. You are not alone in everything you take on. If it’s out of your control, breath and move on. If it’s not, relax and handle it like the boss you are.
You are an amazing mom raising amazing kids. I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but you are. You are their safe place. You are their person, their confidant. You are the one that takes their load – stress, frustration, sadness, anger – you take it all. That means you see the worst in them. The attitude, the disobedience, the disrespect, the constant arguing. You get the short end of the stick. I know how frustrating that is. But you still give them everything and love them with everything you have. Remember what teachers, friends parents, and everyone else said? They’re good kids. They’re respectful, kind kids that are a pleasure to have around. That’s where it matters. That’s where all your hard work pays off. Not at home with you, but everywhere else. You are raising good kids.
Focus on you. Put yourself first. Take better care of yourself. Take breaks when you know you need to, Make more you time. Relax. Read a good book. Do more yoga. Drink some damn water. Eat the cake. Enjoy your coffee. Love every messy unorganized part of yourself. You’re beautiful. You’re an amazing mom and wife. You’re a damn rockstar. I love you.