We all know about No Shave November and all the other no’s men usually do during November, but have you ever heard of “NO”vember? I just discovered it and it’s my new favorite thing. “NO”vember is a time to start saying “no” to people, places, and things that drain your energy. Holy yes! I think everyone should embrace “NO”vember.
“NO”vember looks different for everyone. For some it’s saying no to self hate and self-doubt, instead building themselves up. For some it’s quitting sugar, soda, junk food, instead working on their health. For some it’s stopping their excuses, laziness, instead focusing on the things they neglect. For some it’s saying no to negative energy, instead filling their lives with positive energy. For some it’s about saying no to give themselves more “me” time or family time. It means so many different things to so many different people. It’s a powerful thing.
Okay so I just discovered “NO”vember and it’s my new favorite thing. My days are filled with cleaning, running my kids around, helping with homework, cooking, you know all the usual mom and wife duties. I also volunteer at the school twice a week and anytime they need me and I’m the president of our school PTC (Parent Teacher Club). Along with those, I babysit on the weekends, work from home, and do this blog. I keep myself very, very busy. Because I’m so busy I tend to get stressed out easily and overwhelmed with my load of responsibilities. Often times I take on too much and drop the things I want to be doing for other things to accommodate others.
I suck at saying no. I constantly allow people to take advantage of me because I feel bad when I say no. Yep you read that right. I FEEL BAD WHEN I SAY NO. How sad. I honestly hate that about myself. Why would I feel bad saying no? I feel like I’m letting other people down and they depend on me. I’m a people pleaser. I don’t know when to say no, how to say no, when to prioritize myself over others, and recognize that what’s happening is toxic for me. I constantly think I can do it all and try to do it all. Then when I fail to do it all, I feel like I let myself and everyone else down. What a crappy way to feel, but I only have myself to blame.
This “NO”vember will be my first and greatest. I will say no to volunteering when I really don’t have the time. I will say no to helping people that just take up my time, generosity, and wouldn’t do the same for me. I will say no to anything that makes me lose focus of my goals. I will say no to anything that unnecessarily stresses me out. I will say no to anything that takes time away from my family. I will say no to anything that isn’t worth my time, my effort, my generosity, and I won’t feel guilty about it. This month my no’s will be so I can put the focus back on me. Back on the things I want to do, need to do, and am passionate about.
“NO”vember is my new favorite thing because it inspired me to say no. To stop being a people pleaser and please the person that matters, me. To do what’s best for me. To give myself back the energy that’s being drained. “NO”vember for me is a powerful movement to get my life back. This month I will have more time for family, priorities, responsibilities, crushing my goals, and me. Working on myself will allow me to teach my kids to work on themselves. To say no when they need to say no. That in itself is a powerful thing.