Tell us a little about yourself.
My name is Rayn. I’m 23 years old (24 this year)! I’ve been happily married for 3 1/2 years, but we’ve been together for 7 years. I have a beautiful 4 year old, a pain in the butt almost 2 year old bulldog, and a handsome 2 month old son.
What made you decide to be a surrogate?
When I was about 10, I had a cousin who was a surrogate and after she explained to me what a surrogate is and why being a surrogate is so amazing, I knew I wanted to be one. I waited for my 21st birthday, not to drink like most people, but because that meant I got to send in my surrogacy application.
How was your experience?
Other than giving birth to my own babies and marrying my high school sweetheart, being a surrogate is the most amazing thing I’ve EVER done! I got matched with the most perfect intended parents who are literally the best parents I’ve ever known or seen. The love they have for their babies and the relationship we have is amazing.
What was the surrogacy process like?
The surrogacy process was long. You have to go through psych evaluations, home visits, tons of Skype calls between the parents and coordinator of the surrogacy center, loads of paperwork and even a practice transfer to make sure your body can handle it. The fact that the intended parents wanted a relationship afterwards is rewarding on it’s own. The most rewarding part is knowing you just gave the gift of life to a couple or single parent that wasn’t able to have a baby or babies on their own. It’s literally the best feeling in the world.
What was the best part?
The best part about being a surrogate was the first time the intended parents saw their babies. It was breathtaking! The worst part was the fact that I went into labor at 28 weeks, 3 days. I was scared and crying non stop thinking the worst was going to happen. Both babies are perfect though. The only big way I’ve really been affected is the relationship with the intended parents. During the pregnancy they were constantly checking up on me and flying down to Oregon to go to appointments and such. I’m a loner, so having someone constantly there was a great feeling for me, but I’ve got a family to take care of and so do they, so I’ve learned to live with being a loner again. We do still talk and I get pictures all the time. They even flew us up to Denmark for Christmas!
Do you have any advice for anyone considering being a surrogate?
For anyone who wants to be a surrogate, the only advice I can give you is this.. Go into the surrogacy process telling yourself that the baby or babies are not yours. The better your relationship with the intended parents, the easier the process will be ❤💙